It’s the holidays and Kai’s focus is on Christmas. I have just deregistered him from school, but home education is out of the picture for the time being. Being mum, dad, and everything else in between, it’s my job to think about here and now and the future. So while preparing for Christmas I’m also trying to get my head around the idea that my son will not be going back to school on the 5th January.
We have no curriculum or study plan, but I have suggested that we continue working on spellings and grammar as we did prior to him leaving school. We will not spend too long on these activities, the main focus will be to allow Kai a few months to adjust and find his own interests. My fear is that this could potentially mean Kai spending a couple of months doing hardly anything educational or worse, asking if he can go back to school because he’s bored. In my heart I do not really believe this to be the case; it really is more to do with my conditioning from years of schooling. I have had to admit to myself that I have been conditioned to view learning in a very narrow way: I only discovered the idea of learning through play while Kai was at nursery and it took some time for me to grasp this. But I get it now. Still suffering from these mental handicaps I often try to coerce my son into doing “school work” against his will from time to time. It is his freedom versus my conditioning. I must accept that the deschooling period is for both of us: for me to trust that Kai wants to learn and is more than capable of directing his own learning and for Kai to take back the reigns of his own learning journey.
The next few months will be an enlightening time for the both of us. I am really looking forward to getting to know my son in more depth and enjoying our new found freedom. I explained to Kai that Home-educated children are lucky enough to have a curriculum designed specifically for them. But isn’t that something that all children deserve?
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