Another activity gets ditched
Just when I thought that we were beginning to develop a routine, Kai says that he no longer wishes to attend Jodo classes. We’ve only recently started attending but I really enjoyed chatting with the other mums, and was beginning to make some firm friends. I also loved the fact that the week began with us out and about, rather than indoors wondering what to do.
I’m a bit concerned that Kai has pretty much ditched all of his clubs ( swimming, cubs and break dance). “Will he stick to anything?” I ask myself. I have a general rule that he needs to try something before dismissing it. If he does not like it, then that’s fine. I don’t force him to continue. But at the same time I am aware that he needs to develop persistence.
Is this the One?
For the last few months he has been talking about Parkour, and asking if he can do a trial. Because of the price and his commitment to the other activities (prior to dropping them) I have tried to stall him on this. I also wanted to see how much he wanted to do it, half expecting his interest to wane. But several months on he is still asking, so I guess we we’ll give it a go.
Many children I know have activities every day after school, but they did not choose to do them. Their parents did. I don’t want to debate the ethics of this because I do not know what’s right these children. However, I do feel that forcing my son to participate in activities that he does not like seems to cause a lot of resistance and upset within our relationship. In addition, I really want him to follow his passions.
This does not mean that Kai never has to do things he doesn’t want, of course not. There are times when I need to go places where he does not want to go, but if there is no one to look after him he has to come along. I know that going along to a lecture for an hour or shopping isn’t going to do him any harm. Ok, but couldn’t you use say the same about swimming lessons, or school for that matter? I think the main difference with the former examples is that these activities are not happening to him in a direct sense; he is attending, but does not have to actively participate ( he might have to hold some shopping). In the other two examples he is required to be an active participant whether he wants to or not.
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