Learning From Others, The Good and the Bad( Part 1)

Our Need for Others

Being a single parent and a home-educator makes socialisation a top priority. In addition to fulfilling Kai’s need to play and interact with other children, and for me to meet other adults, there is also the need for Kai to mix with other adults and become aware alternatives to ‘mummy’. My responses to situations are not always ideal, but Kai doesn’t know that. He will simply model my behaviour, right or wrong unless he is aware of a more suitable alternative( or any alternative).

For example, while we in Dewsbury Kai came up to me one morning and said quite worryingly, “ Something bad has happened, mummy.” When I nervously come out of the caravan to see what he had done( assuming the worst, and that he was at fault), I saw around 30 seedlings on the floor covered in compost. Panic set in and I began to chastise him while doing my best to clean up the mess and restore the seedlings to their pots. Kaye came out of her caravan and also saw the mess.  I did my best to explain what happened, although not really sure myself. She was surprisingly calm, and simply suggested that we should not waste our time trying to pick all of them up. This was unlike my typical response; I tend to get quite vocal and can overreact. It was nice for us both to see an alternative to what we’re used to.

Dan, the other woofer staying with Kaye, was a great source of knowledge and wisdom for Kai, and me. He educated us on the devastating treatment of the aborigines and the changes that have taken place in Australia following a change of prime minister, something that I had absolutely no knowledge of.  He was a really sound guy and apart from a few minor eccentricities, he was great to be around.


Kai and Dan

I often find that I have to be prepared to reach out of my comfort zone to get Kai the help I feel he needs. I tend to approach strangers and ask questions a lot more than when he was at school. I am becoming acutely aware that as one person I cannot supply all that Kai needs to reach his potential;  we are, dependent on the skills, knowledge, generosity and kindness of others.

Learning about Lock Gates

man operating a canal lock

I have never understood exactly how a lock operated, and so when I saw this gentleman in Dewsbury operating one I couldn’t resist the opportunity to ask. In summary, for those who like me didn’t really understand the process: locks raise or lower the water level. If a narrow boat is going upstream the lock will fill with water, raising the level for the boat to continue on upstream. For a better description, please see how lock gates work

Our home-education journey must include people from all walks of life. I accept our help can come from anyone, regardless of colour, culture or religion. In ‘Love, Freedom, and Aloneness’, Osho claims that children do best when they grow up around lots of different people and that by having the influence of many [they] will have a “ bigger soul.”

But what about the dangers of exposing a highly receptive child to those who hold different and controversial beliefs?

I will discuss this in a future post 😉



About SJ

A mother, writer and free-spirited home-educator with a passion for challenging the norm.
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