Mummy, I want to go back to School
For a little while the possibility of a return to school has cropped up, but Kai hasn’t really expressed a strong desire to return and we have left it at that. However, over the last few weeks the issue has come up repeatedly. While I’m not overly keen on the idea, I want to my son to happy. The main reason seems to be that Kai misses his old school friends, and recent contact with them has no doubt fuelled his desire to return. We have discussed the idea, and I had to stress to Kai that if he returns to school he has to be prepared to adopt the whole school package, not just the opportunity to see his friends. We will have to play the school game, to an extent, which will mean doing homework, getting in on time, and making an effort do his best regardless of the inefficiencies of the system itself.
Fears and Concerns
One of my main concerns with the idea of Kai going back to school is the possibility that it may jeopardise the huge gains Kai has made in his development: the little insecure boy that left Godwin 8 months ago is now growing in confidence; has a strong sense of his natural creative abilities, is highly self-motivated, and has a curiosity and appreciation for wildlife that any expert would admire.
Having Kai around me full time means that I benefit from seeing everything and adapt his learning accordingly. If he returns to school I will have to trust that his teachers will adequately facilitate his learning. Given Kai’s past experience at school, I have learnt not to over-rely on teachers; they are overworked and overburdened with 30 children in a class. But perhaps the biggest concerns are the loss of freedom that we will have to adjust to. We have spent the last 8 months getting up when it suits us, going out on spontaneous adventures; and apart from covering certain basic topics for a short period in the morning, Kai has had a significant amount of freedom to follow his own interests. I wonder how he will cope with having to sacrifice his freedom during school hours.
Flexi Schooling, a possible compromise
Part-time school could possibly offer us the best of both worlds. If Kai only attends school 2-3 days a week, he will be spared from the full force of the system and also have the benefit of continuing with some of his home-ed activities. Kai was flexi-schooled throughout his previous school experience, but this time we could aim to strike more of a balance between home and school: 2 or 3 days at home would be better than one. I can only hope that the new Head agrees. And if he can’t get back into his old school? We’ll have to cross that bridge when we come to it. 🙂